obligingness

they joined to beauty and brilliant acquirements, a manner naturally easy, and carefully formed to general civility and obligingness

她们不仅模样儿好看，才华出众，而且举止自然随和，着意表现得彬彬有礼，和蔼可亲。

The basic skills brought to the table were expected to include politesse ( sincere good manners), esprit ( wit), galanterie ( gallantry), complaisance ( obligingness), enjouement ( cheerfulness) and flatterie.

期望能带到餐桌上的基本技能包括：politesse（真诚的好习惯），esprit（机智），galanterie（勇气），complaisance（让人亲近），enjouement（爽朗）和flatterie（殷勤）。